Our souls and our inner, deepest, beings, need to love others to be truly alive


The world is quick to help us spend our money on useless ‘stuff’, quick to make us waste our time on doing nothing of value, and yet is also quick to condemn those who give of themselves willingly to help others, with no thought of reward, praise or glory from what they are doing. When we talk about the ‘value’ of things, or possessions like houses, cars, etc. then we are completely missing the point about what really matters.

The most valuable thing you can give to any individual (and that includes yourself), or to any situation, is your care, your compassion, and understanding – but, most especially, your heartfelt Love! Love is free to give, and pays you back many times over – it has no monetary value, but its value is beyond price, in the good it can do in the lives of others. Giving of your Love, goes against all rational principles promoted by the big money-making organisations and thinkers. Strangely, Love only has real value when it is given away, because to hold it back makes it wither, die and become a personal, burden of unused guilt – and it can break you unless you use it well! Our lives, our souls and our inner, deepest, beings, need to love others to be truly alive – the rewards are many time more than what we give away, making it easier to give out even more.

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Let me put it like this – over countless millennia, many scientists, innovators and engineers, have searched for the perpetual machine – a machine that needs no energy put into it, because it produces more than it uses – in the real, physical 3D world we inhabit then a perpetual machine cannot happen due to technical stuff like friction, wear, etc…. BUT Love, real life action founded on Love, and driven by Love at its core, IS that perpetual machine. It produces more and more Love along the way, it excites and invigorates people in their daily lives and everything they do, everyone they meet is touched by it  – it is the essence and source of the power we need in this world to make positive changes, to bring a better life to those who struggle, and it grows and expands to affect our entire existence if we keep giving it away. Fire up the machine and it goes and drives all by itself, and gives more and more Love to use, again and again. Yes, it is miraculous, but it truly works!

We know that when we are ‘in love’ we see everything differently, experience everything more intently, feel positive about the present, the future, and can make decisions much more easily – being ‘in love’ (with our existence and our world) is a feeling we can immerse ourselves in when we help others to overcome their problems, when we put ourselves outside of our personal comfort zone, and when we have no thought of reward except to make others joyful, happy and comfortable.

And what sort of ‘material’ is used in making the components, the mechanism and the moving parts for this wonderful perpetual machine? Compassion, Empathy, Truth, and make sure to throw in any Kindness, Happiness, Joy, Trust and Hope anytime you like – and it will run beautifully, all by itself! Just bring the materials together, and they will make the ‘machine’ all by themselves – we just have to use it! The more you use it, the better it gets – it is self-maintaining, self-fueling, and self-lubricating – an engineer’s dream! From within our hearts and souls we can give out love to others and watch the wave grow and build – it may seem like magic, but Love is the beginning of all good things, and Love is the way we can correctly engage with the World and make a real, positive, difference among the people we know and contact.

 

Love is the perpetual machine we need as the true power source in our lives – the more we give away, the more we have to give! ~ Gaius Quinterus

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When your reason fails – go with your heart!


Our lives are full of decisions, minute by minute, day by day and year by year. Some are of relatively little consequence to our lives and are easy to decide upon, others are more profound and can affect the course our life might take, and other decisions may, or may not, impact upon the lives of others, too.

And it doesn’t matter if a particular decision seems trivial or of no consequence to others – it can be a major obstacle to you, to your own mind, in your position, with your circumstances…. And the fact it matters to *you* makes it important to *you*.

It is very easy for us, as individuals, especially when life is tough, to become obsessive about the decisions we make – it is increasingly hard at times to try anything different, new, un-tested – and so we get stuck in a mental groove, a *rut* of just doing what we always have and not feeling *brave enough* to explore the great range of opportunities presenting themselves to us…. Sure, we want ‘Happiness’ (and we have mentioned it before in ‘Happiness matters!’) but often the means of getting there simply frustrate us and confuse us…

The world is quick to tell us to buy ‘this’ or ‘that’ and we will be happy, but what if you can’t afford such things, or have no desire for them – will you ever be happy?

Yes, you can be happy, without any question – and it involves turning for guidance to the very thing you feel has nothing left to give, nothing that can be done to help you, that part of you that sometimes feels like an empty place…. It involves turning to your heart – yes, that battered, tired things that feels like it is at breaking point so often – but, *it* is the way to help, the means to find your true path – and if you are keeping focused on love and kindness towards others then your heart can guide you better than any fancy advert, bring you more peace and happiness than any material ‘thing’ and can re-invigorate your mind and your life in ways you would never have dreamed possible.

Much love, and may you all find your way, by consulting with your hearts.

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… and, so, for the affirmation 🙂

‘When reason fails, and the world prevents your mind seeing a clear course of action – go with your heart. Your mind can be swayed and affected by the insistent words of your peers, the pressure to accumulate money, the fashions of society and the worries of daily living, but your heart inherently ‘knows’ what is best for you, what will truly and honestly make you happy. This is not the ‘happiness’ of some perceived pleasure, nor the ‘happiness’ of accumulating material wealth, but the type of true happiness that brings inner peace and contentment. Your heart knows how to find it, and its calm, quiet, loving voice will tell you, if you listen well!

~ Gaius Quinterus

‘Be infectious – and, like sparks from a raging fire, spread it about!’


As we grow up as kids and, increasingly, as adults, we are strongly exhorted to avoid all risk of infection as much as we can – cleaning your hands and using hand wash chemicals in a hospital is only sensible, for instance, or when doing anything that might cause any sort of infection to spread in any place frequented by the public – simple common sense advice and the adherence to these practices has reduced the amount of disease and  misery in the modern world enormously.

But it is not just germs, bacteria and viruses that are infectious – these can be very dangerous and even life-threatening in some cases, but they are not the worst, most damaging infections we can have in our daily lives. Certainly, some of them are very bad, but medications can usually deal with them quite quickly and easily.

Far worse and more pervasive, are the emotional and mental ‘infections’ of despair, self-loathing, self-doubt and ingratitude, fear, distrust, anxiety, potential (and actual) rejection, unhappiness and ‘ladder-climbing’ (that vile human habit of climbing on the heads and achievements of others)… It is ‘infections’ like these, and how to counter them, that I wish us to consider in this blog post.

The fragility of the human psyche and the daily mental strain on people’s lives is gradually becoming better understood and scientifically documented by more and more organisations and health professionals – often, nowadays, a psychological profile is undertaken for many jobs to asses the impact of stress on applicants to a particular post being sought. Counter-intuitively (well, on-the-face of it then it seems counter-intuitive to me…) the relatively ‘easy’ upbringing and lifestyle most of us enjoy in this world has only caused an increase in some kinds of self-esteem and mental health problems, despite more and more people having all they need and many times much of what they would ‘like’ as well (even if they do not really need it, and it is not essential to their comfort or survival). Clearly, the acquisition and pursuit of ‘things’ don’t make us happy in the long term. Sure, such acquisitions and pursuits can fill temporary ‘gaps’ in our longing but the underlying problems can’t be dealt with by a ‘quick fix’ like a pill or some medication. Other types of remedy are required!

A more long-term answer for our modern-day human troubles (I say modern-day but these troubles are really as old as Mankind) is to deal with the infection by overcoming it with a new, and more powerful ‘infection’. Each case and every example given can be countered with a more powerful, worthwhile and helpful counter-infection.

Let us examine some of them – as best we can with the time and space we have at our disposal, offering some ideas to help – different people will respond differently to the ideas, but the concept can be extended with trial and error. In all these things then remember to try best and repair yourself, too, then you will be better able to assist in the lives of others, and will reap great rewards for your own soul and in your own life.

So, what ‘good’ infections can we use to counter the bad ones?

The first (and most important) is LOVE. No, I am not talking about feigning affection, or flattering people with mere words, I am talking about real love from the heart, real empathy, real heart-felt desire to help overcome the obstacles people face. Not some wishy-washy stupid, meaningless smile that you put on all the time, just to pretend – not that at all. Real, actual LOVE for other people, especially those who are hurting, needing help and down on their luck – that sort of infection is contagious and spreads like wildfire!

The second we touched on above, and is EMPATHY. Empathy is more than sympathy, it is much more than saying, ‘I understand’ it is feeling the pain with folk, it is engaging with the problems they face and putting yourself in their shoes. If you do that it really can help others, and that infection will also spread when people see the positive results it generates.

A very good infection is GENTLENESS. This can be hard if you are stressed yourself, but being gentle with someone who is struggling can really calm you inside, too. It is a self-healing process, which makes your actions more useful to the rest of the world, and especially to people who need some peace and calm in their own lives.

A sometimes over-used good infection is HUMOUR but is still a good tool to have in your personal and social toolbox. Over-used? Yes, it can easily be over-used and will be taken the wrong way if it is not guided by LOVE and GENTLENESS. Humour is great, and can break down many barriers, but if you are genuine in trying to help yourself, and help others along life’s way, then do not behave in a self-congratulatory way and overdo the humour…. Take it slowly, gently and with love at the forefront of your desire to cope with your own life and help others around to cope with their lives.

WORK is sometimes an unpopular thing to mention, but we, as human beings, find many of our best, most productive times mentally, and physically, are when we actually summon the energy, push ourselves and our ‘envelope’ and work at something. I am NOT saying it is easy, and I fully (personally) understand how some days it is very hard physically, and mentally, to actually work – but the effort is worthwhile when it finally breaks through the natural barriers that seek to hold us back. But, work with Love, Empathy and Gentleness towards yourself – do not be too hard on yourself, for that will only be self-defeating. Humour towards yourself is very therapeutic too, so try to laugh at your mistakes, your stupidity and your failures, for that way makes it easier to try again. We all make mistakes, we are all stupid at times, and we all have failings. As long as we learn from them, they have not been in vain.

Together, we can solve this world’s problems, and solve each others’ problems – we are not ever alone – we are part of a huge family of Mankind. I pray that we can infect others with positive things, like Love, Empathy, Gentleness, Humour and Work, so that all may benefit, including ourselves. Peace and Love to All.

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‘Truth simply is, because Love is’


‘Truth’ has no sound, no voice, no size, no volume, no smell, no sense of time, distance or strength. To constrain ‘Truth’ in any such way diminishes it, and forces it to be a human condition, perception or effect. ‘Truth’ simply ‘is’.  It permeates everything and anything – it’s very being is contained in the arrangement of the energy that gives substance to everything – it is the other side of that great expanse of existence which has ‘Love’ written on the side we see – the greatest truth being this:- ‘Truth’ is ‘Love’. It is the manifestation, partner, expression and co-equal of ‘Love’ in our existence and as we focus on developing one in our life, the other is there right alongside, each providing their own peace and comfort to our soul.’

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I pray that Truth, and Love, surround you all, at all times

~ Gaius Quinterus

Happiness matters!


Everyone wants to be happy, and indeed has the right to be happy. The pursuit of ‘happiness’ (whatever we take that to mean) is actually a self-perpetuating, never-ending, task for each of us, every day. We may feel it is the driving force for what we do, and it is naturally within us to try to be ‘happy’ – perhaps we think that true ‘happiness’ can come from earning enough money so we acquire a certain object, or ‘happiness’ can come from reaching a certain level of career, or….

However, one of the great truths in life is that true happiness comes when we give happiness to others – their happiness will make us happy in a very real, profound way. I am certainly not proposing we go out, spend all our money, and buy everything we can to then give it all away to others – no, that may help one or two people on the surface and may make them happy for a short time, but mere possessions do not make for long-term happiness, for anyone. Things (objects, cars, houses, possessions, etc.) all decay and fade away with time – the long-term worth is nothing!

Far better to help people feel loved, accepted, cared-for, valued and appreciated, which is something that often costs nothing financially but can bring untold rewards for us all, and those rewards and benefits encourage and sustain even more people to give in such a way too. The returns are true positive returns, true happiness and will long outlast our puny bodies ! Giving of your time and love is a gift beyond price, and the reward to others (and therefore to your own soul) is also without price, but is to be sought out and aimed for at every opportunity.

In all things, and this is an important final thought just now, make sure your happiness does not remove the happiness from anyone else, or the potential for them to enjoy their happiness. The best way to be happy is to help others to be happy, then there can be no conflict of interest and everyone wins – including you! Be blessed,  bless others, and be happy!

~ Gaius Quinterus

 

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Everyone seeks, and deserves, happiness. Share happiness with others, as a loving mother shares her life with her child!

~ Gaius Quinterus

 

The Path…


I hadn’t been around on this planet for long before I realised that life wasn’t always going to be ‘a breeze’. My first (very vivid) memories are of being 3 months old and I can still, very clearly, see the things around me – my mother’s clothes, the wall coverings in my bedroom, as well as smelling the hateful powder that it was insisted be used on me (I have always loathed the smell of Johnson’s Baby Powder ever since), and I well remember experiencing the hunger of a rapidly growing baby, as you would expect – well, I am male after all…!

Not much you can do for yourself as a baby, but the eager, fresh young mind is working and trying to figure things out – and watching the Path of Life stretching off into the distance starts to become real experience, signposted with expectations, desires and challenges. Never forget that a baby is watching, thinking and studying the world – it is taking the first steps on its own Path and needs help and encouragement at every stage. As life unfolds, and the years pile on, then other elements creep in – relationships with parents, siblings, toddler ‘friends’ etc. – the ability to go and find food for yourself from the cupboard (I bet we can all remember the excitement of sneaking in to the kitchen without being spotted and having that extra biscuit or bit of cake when we were only just old enough to be able to reach the kitchen worktops by standing on a chair?) – and then there was the horrendously difficult experience of school……

All, in all, life has its challenges at any and every age – perhaps we will discuss these more in the future – but it is the principle I want us to consider for now.

Life is a journey, an exploration of ourselves, and a challenge at many levels and in many ways. Interestingly (well, it is to me) is how one person’s challenge is sometimes of no consequence to someone else… For me it was (primarily) always my interactions with people that caused my biggest difficulties… I know now it is because of how my brain is ‘wired’ but no-one had any clue back then (1950s, 60s, etc.) so being ‘accepted’ wasn’t something that happened to me very often. Living a life of isolation (from other people’s feelings) drives you to look inside yourself for your own advice and counsel, makes you find and depend on your own innate strengths, and forces you to examine cause and effect in much more detail then people who seem to float through life as though on that first-mentioned ‘breeze’.

But, and here is the crux of what I am trying to say – and I apologise for the side-tracking by baby powder, and cake – each and every person has their OWN sets of problems to deal with – ones that are hard for THEM to handle, even if they may not seem like a problem to you, or even to anyone else you know.

Take strength from the fact that many have walked even more difficult paths, with less strength, and yet have reached their goal with courage, faith and perseverance, finding peace and hope as they enjoy the life they have been given. ~ Gaius Quinterus

The Path we travel is very much one that is ours individually, and not one belonging to someone else, but we can take great heart and comfort from the fact that it is one we can travel with shed-loads of experience handed down from others ahead of us and alongside us (if we want to learn from them), and it is a journey where we can also help others travel theirs – think of us all on a massive road together in this world – and doing what we can to keep everyone buoyed up and encouraged – sometimes we need more help than we can give out, but other times, when we have perhaps found a way over some specific obstacle, or round some particular problem, and it is then we can help a fellow traveller on their way too. Remember our discussion on Ripples, last time… it’s that sort of positive ripple effect that helps all of us travel better together, as a great group of Humanity, through this life 🙂

Peace, good health, enjoy The Path 🙂

‘Often, as we travel this path that is our life, we are shrouded in doubt, cannot see more than a short distance ahead, and have concerns about where we are heading. Things can seem dark and suffocating, as the smoke of a personal conflict, problem or sadness stings our eyes. There are always trip hazards, ready to cause us to stumble and doubt ourselves. We might sometimes lose all sense of direction completely, and have to stop for a while, to gather our strength, worrying that we do not have the ability to continue.
But consider the traveller on their chosen road (just like any of us) – there are times when mist surrounds them, perhaps a rough surface slows their progress, they may be thirsty, hungry, too hot or too cold, or a throng of other people makes quiet travel impossible for a time. In all things the traveller must have faith in the road continuing to its destination as it should, even when they cannot see it clearly, or it is hard to endure. So too, with our lives. Our path in life may have periods of being uneven, or its direction unclear, but it is still there, still waiting for us, and it is ours personally to travel and experience, no-one else’s. Take strength from the fact that many have walked even more difficult paths, with less strength, and yet have reached their goal with courage, faith and perseverance, finding peace and hope as they enjoy the life they have been given.’

~ Gaius Quinterus

The Ripple Creators


In my last blog post (‘Everything … is for a purpose.’) I used the analogy of a river as being a way to think of how our lives progress from start to finish, and I would quite like to stay with the notion of water this time, too.

One thing that has been crystallised for me, through my observations of people, is that although everyone is uniquely and wonderfully different, there are certain categories that can often (surprisingly often in fact) be loosely applied across the majority of the population with regard to their influence on others for the greater good. People can often move in and out from one category to another, dependent on life’s circumstances, but I have found the following general categories can be very helpful when trying to determine my own state of mind, or when trying to evaluate my personal progress or situation. Applied to others the categories can be useful to know who is best to approach for guidance or support, or who in fact is in most need of support and understanding from me.

‘Like ripples in a pond, your life affects those around you’.The three simple categories are:
1. Ripple Creators
2. Ripple Reflectors
3. Ripple Users

So, what you may well ask, are ‘ripples’? Well, they are the positive things we do, say and engage in to help others – the things that can make other people’s lives better in some way, help with how they feel about themselves and their circumstances, and give them a boost or ‘lift’ spiritually, emotionally, socially and personally as they go about coping with whatever they are living through.

We hear the expression ‘making waves’ but waves are a bit frantic for my liking – they are altogether too adrenaline-filled, muscle-bound and violent at times – generically destructive and over powering to cope with when they start slamming into things. Ripples are different – they are gentler, more finely tuned to the circumstances, and don’t seek to smash anything (or anyone) to bits – just gently nudge things along. Think of waves-v-ripples in this way – you carefully make a small paper boat and set it floating on a pond – you want to encourage it to go in a certain direction, so you toss in the small pebble or stone alongside it, or behind it, to create a few ripples to help it bob along in your desired direction – but a big stone that creates waves will just sink the flimsy vessel, which is not what you want at all…

So, you get the drift – ripples are helpful, useful, generally easy to create and can guide, nudge and encourage when applied with skill and  care and to the right extent.

Ripple Creators are good at starting ripples – they often have an instinctive ‘nose’ for when a ripple is needed, and have a knack of how to create it, as well as when and where. The creation process can take years of practice of course, and may not always come naturally when you feel under-the-weather yourself, but creating ripples is fun and a very positive thing to do – as well as helping move things/people/situations in the right direction the ripples make you (the Ripple Creator) feel good too 🙂 It’s called a big ‘Win-Win’ situation. Ripple Creators are essential people to have around – they are the ever-focussed eye of awareness and action, never stinting to help others around them – even ones they don’t know personally. But, no-one can be expected to always be giving without a little rest sometimes themselves – so now we come to the second category, where you will oftentimes find Ripple Creators while they recharge their ‘batteries’ …

Ripple Reflectors are often the largest group in the population – in the dream-world of cyber-space they can be thought of as people on Facebook who ‘Share’ a funny story, or ReTweet a helpful word or two from someone else. However, in the real 3D world where it truly matters most, they may just be someone who is ‘paying forwards’ having been given a help-up themselves in life – so they are reflecting and bouncing back the ripples so the ripples can go on and help someone else. For instance, imagine you are in a shop, trying to struggle out the door when someone reaches out and holds the door open for you – they are being a Ripple Creator. So, the next chance you get to return the favour to someone else you are being a Ripple Reflector, effectively becoming a type of Ripple Creator too, simply grown from when something nice was done for you – and so it goes on – the ripple never dies and instead keeps bouncing around and often even growing! Being a Ripple Reflector is fun too – not as much fun as creating ripples, but it is still great to see how we can move things on in life, in a positive way wherever we have something positive happen to, or for, us first.

Ripple Users are our third, and in some ways most important, category. They are where the ripples stop – the shallow, or maybe weed-filled, shorelines of existence which absorb the ripples. Nothing bounces back – no further movement happens, but that is because the ripples have reached someone who really needs them – someone who is unable to generate any ripples themselves, can’t even reflect anything because they are struggling so much, and these are the people the Ripple Creators were always hoping to help, sometime, somewhere, when they first created the tiny movements on the waters of life. We have all been Ripple Users at times – periods in our lives where we suck in more energy than we can give out – where we need more help given to us than we can ever see ourselves being able to repay – but that is OK, it is normal, it happens, and it is LIFE! It’s one of the very greatest joys to see Ripple Users so often get back on their feet and be able to become at least Ripple Reflectors and sometimes they even become inspired Ripple Creators themselves, directly drawing on their own experiences to motivate and encourage others.

Thus the cycle continues, the ripples keep going round and round and round, and everyone gets a bit of the Win-Win situation too after a while 🙂

So, what’s the affirmation, I hear you ask? Well, here it is, and I hope it can help inspire you, as so many have created ripples that have helped me, I will also try to be ‘out there’ creating ripples too, whenever I can.

Peace and love to you all 🙂

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‘Like ripples in a pond, your life affects those around you, which will affect those around them, and so on… Make sure you only create good ripples that encourage people to create even more good ripples themselves. Who knows how many hundreds, or even thousands, of people could be positively affected by one act of kindness?’

~ Gaius Quinterus