‘Truth simply is, because Love is’

‘Truth’ has no sound, no voice, no size, no volume, no smell, no sense of time, distance or strength. To constrain ‘Truth’ in any such way diminishes it, and forces it to be a human condition, perception or effect. ‘Truth’ simply ‘is’.  It permeates everything and anything – it’s very being is contained in the arrangement of the energy that gives substance to everything – it is the other side of that great expanse of existence which has ‘Love’ written on the side we see – the greatest truth being this:- ‘Truth’ is ‘Love’. It is the manifestation, partner, expression and co-equal of ‘Love’ in our existence and as we focus on developing one in our life, the other is there right alongside, each providing their own peace and comfort to our soul.’

Breckon Beach, Yell

I pray that Truth, and Love, surround you all, at all times

~ Gaius Quinterus


The Path…

I hadn’t been around on this planet for long before I realised that life wasn’t always going to be ‘a breeze’. My first (very vivid) memories are of being 3 months old and I can still, very clearly, see the things around me – my mother’s clothes, the wall coverings in my bedroom, as well as smelling the hateful powder that it was insisted be used on me (I have always loathed the smell of Johnson’s Baby Powder ever since), and I well remember experiencing the hunger of a rapidly growing baby, as you would expect – well, I am male after all…!

Not much you can do for yourself as a baby, but the eager, fresh young mind is working and trying to figure things out – and watching the Path of Life stretching off into the distance starts to become real experience, signposted with expectations, desires and challenges. Never forget that a baby is watching, thinking and studying the world – it is taking the first steps on its own Path and needs help and encouragement at every stage. As life unfolds, and the years pile on, then other elements creep in – relationships with parents, siblings, toddler ‘friends’ etc. – the ability to go and find food for yourself from the cupboard (I bet we can all remember the excitement of sneaking in to the kitchen without being spotted and having that extra biscuit or bit of cake when we were only just old enough to be able to reach the kitchen worktops by standing on a chair?) – and then there was the horrendously difficult experience of school……

All, in all, life has its challenges at any and every age – perhaps we will discuss these more in the future – but it is the principle I want us to consider for now.

Life is a journey, an exploration of ourselves, and a challenge at many levels and in many ways. Interestingly (well, it is to me) is how one person’s challenge is sometimes of no consequence to someone else… For me it was (primarily) always my interactions with people that caused my biggest difficulties… I know now it is because of how my brain is ‘wired’ but no-one had any clue back then (1950s, 60s, etc.) so being ‘accepted’ wasn’t something that happened to me very often. Living a life of isolation (from other people’s feelings) drives you to look inside yourself for your own advice and counsel, makes you find and depend on your own innate strengths, and forces you to examine cause and effect in much more detail then people who seem to float through life as though on that first-mentioned ‘breeze’.

But, and here is the crux of what I am trying to say – and I apologise for the side-tracking by baby powder, and cake – each and every person has their OWN sets of problems to deal with – ones that are hard for THEM to handle, even if they may not seem like a problem to you, or even to anyone else you know.

Take strength from the fact that many have walked even more difficult paths, with less strength, and yet have reached their goal with courage, faith and perseverance, finding peace and hope as they enjoy the life they have been given. ~ Gaius Quinterus

The Path we travel is very much one that is ours individually, and not one belonging to someone else, but we can take great heart and comfort from the fact that it is one we can travel with shed-loads of experience handed down from others ahead of us and alongside us (if we want to learn from them), and it is a journey where we can also help others travel theirs – think of us all on a massive road together in this world – and doing what we can to keep everyone buoyed up and encouraged – sometimes we need more help than we can give out, but other times, when we have perhaps found a way over some specific obstacle, or round some particular problem, and it is then we can help a fellow traveller on their way too. Remember our discussion on Ripples, last time… it’s that sort of positive ripple effect that helps all of us travel better together, as a great group of Humanity, through this life 🙂

Peace, good health, enjoy The Path 🙂

‘Often, as we travel this path that is our life, we are shrouded in doubt, cannot see more than a short distance ahead, and have concerns about where we are heading. Things can seem dark and suffocating, as the smoke of a personal conflict, problem or sadness stings our eyes. There are always trip hazards, ready to cause us to stumble and doubt ourselves. We might sometimes lose all sense of direction completely, and have to stop for a while, to gather our strength, worrying that we do not have the ability to continue.
But consider the traveller on their chosen road (just like any of us) – there are times when mist surrounds them, perhaps a rough surface slows their progress, they may be thirsty, hungry, too hot or too cold, or a throng of other people makes quiet travel impossible for a time. In all things the traveller must have faith in the road continuing to its destination as it should, even when they cannot see it clearly, or it is hard to endure. So too, with our lives. Our path in life may have periods of being uneven, or its direction unclear, but it is still there, still waiting for us, and it is ours personally to travel and experience, no-one else’s. Take strength from the fact that many have walked even more difficult paths, with less strength, and yet have reached their goal with courage, faith and perseverance, finding peace and hope as they enjoy the life they have been given.’

~ Gaius Quinterus

The Ripple Creators

In my last blog post (‘Everything … is for a purpose.’) I used the analogy of a river as being a way to think of how our lives progress from start to finish, and I would quite like to stay with the notion of water this time, too.

One thing that has been crystallised for me, through my observations of people, is that although everyone is uniquely and wonderfully different, there are certain categories that can often (surprisingly often in fact) be loosely applied across the majority of the population with regard to their influence on others for the greater good. People can often move in and out from one category to another, dependent on life’s circumstances, but I have found the following general categories can be very helpful when trying to determine my own state of mind, or when trying to evaluate my personal progress or situation. Applied to others the categories can be useful to know who is best to approach for guidance or support, or who in fact is in most need of support and understanding from me.

‘Like ripples in a pond, your life affects those around you’.The three simple categories are:
1. Ripple Creators
2. Ripple Reflectors
3. Ripple Users

So, what you may well ask, are ‘ripples’? Well, they are the positive things we do, say and engage in to help others – the things that can make other people’s lives better in some way, help with how they feel about themselves and their circumstances, and give them a boost or ‘lift’ spiritually, emotionally, socially and personally as they go about coping with whatever they are living through.

We hear the expression ‘making waves’ but waves are a bit frantic for my liking – they are altogether too adrenaline-filled, muscle-bound and violent at times – generically destructive and over powering to cope with when they start slamming into things. Ripples are different – they are gentler, more finely tuned to the circumstances, and don’t seek to smash anything (or anyone) to bits – just gently nudge things along. Think of waves-v-ripples in this way – you carefully make a small paper boat and set it floating on a pond – you want to encourage it to go in a certain direction, so you toss in the small pebble or stone alongside it, or behind it, to create a few ripples to help it bob along in your desired direction – but a big stone that creates waves will just sink the flimsy vessel, which is not what you want at all…

So, you get the drift – ripples are helpful, useful, generally easy to create and can guide, nudge and encourage when applied with skill and  care and to the right extent.

Ripple Creators are good at starting ripples – they often have an instinctive ‘nose’ for when a ripple is needed, and have a knack of how to create it, as well as when and where. The creation process can take years of practice of course, and may not always come naturally when you feel under-the-weather yourself, but creating ripples is fun and a very positive thing to do – as well as helping move things/people/situations in the right direction the ripples make you (the Ripple Creator) feel good too 🙂 It’s called a big ‘Win-Win’ situation. Ripple Creators are essential people to have around – they are the ever-focussed eye of awareness and action, never stinting to help others around them – even ones they don’t know personally. But, no-one can be expected to always be giving without a little rest sometimes themselves – so now we come to the second category, where you will oftentimes find Ripple Creators while they recharge their ‘batteries’ …

Ripple Reflectors are often the largest group in the population – in the dream-world of cyber-space they can be thought of as people on Facebook who ‘Share’ a funny story, or ReTweet a helpful word or two from someone else. However, in the real 3D world where it truly matters most, they may just be someone who is ‘paying forwards’ having been given a help-up themselves in life – so they are reflecting and bouncing back the ripples so the ripples can go on and help someone else. For instance, imagine you are in a shop, trying to struggle out the door when someone reaches out and holds the door open for you – they are being a Ripple Creator. So, the next chance you get to return the favour to someone else you are being a Ripple Reflector, effectively becoming a type of Ripple Creator too, simply grown from when something nice was done for you – and so it goes on – the ripple never dies and instead keeps bouncing around and often even growing! Being a Ripple Reflector is fun too – not as much fun as creating ripples, but it is still great to see how we can move things on in life, in a positive way wherever we have something positive happen to, or for, us first.

Ripple Users are our third, and in some ways most important, category. They are where the ripples stop – the shallow, or maybe weed-filled, shorelines of existence which absorb the ripples. Nothing bounces back – no further movement happens, but that is because the ripples have reached someone who really needs them – someone who is unable to generate any ripples themselves, can’t even reflect anything because they are struggling so much, and these are the people the Ripple Creators were always hoping to help, sometime, somewhere, when they first created the tiny movements on the waters of life. We have all been Ripple Users at times – periods in our lives where we suck in more energy than we can give out – where we need more help given to us than we can ever see ourselves being able to repay – but that is OK, it is normal, it happens, and it is LIFE! It’s one of the very greatest joys to see Ripple Users so often get back on their feet and be able to become at least Ripple Reflectors and sometimes they even become inspired Ripple Creators themselves, directly drawing on their own experiences to motivate and encourage others.

Thus the cycle continues, the ripples keep going round and round and round, and everyone gets a bit of the Win-Win situation too after a while 🙂

So, what’s the affirmation, I hear you ask? Well, here it is, and I hope it can help inspire you, as so many have created ripples that have helped me, I will also try to be ‘out there’ creating ripples too, whenever I can.

Peace and love to you all 🙂


‘Like ripples in a pond, your life affects those around you, which will affect those around them, and so on… Make sure you only create good ripples that encourage people to create even more good ripples themselves. Who knows how many hundreds, or even thousands, of people could be positively affected by one act of kindness?’

~ Gaius Quinterus

Everything … is for a purpose.

I regularly contemplate my place in this world, and how everything ‘fits’ together – nothing new in that endeavour – it has been the quest of thinking peoples, probably since time began…

This affirmation describes one of the ways I have tried to reconcile how life seems to work around (and with) me – I hope it can strike a chord with some of you.

purpose1(The picture is of Glen Garry, just to the west of Loch Ness in Scotland, and was taken by me)

Peace and health to you all.


‘Everything we experience in life is for a purpose, by design, and for the good of ourselves and those around us, even if we do not understand it at the time. Our lives are like rivers that start very small and quiet – a gentle trickle of precious water that delights all who see it. As we gather more experiences, both turbulent and peaceful, our waters gather strength and speed, taking us through new and interesting places, until we reach obstacles that prevent us going forwards in the way we plan. Sometimes we rush through, carrying the earth and bushes with us, and sometimes we gather in pools of liquid strength, and then carve a fresh channel towards our distant goal. At times we are joined by others along the journey, some enriching our flow and some diverting parts of us to different destinations. Some stay with us, and some take new routes in their search for their true worth. We may give a part of our strength to other streams, or set some of our strength to one side in lakes, for many others to use. As we get older, our pace may quicken as we make a new path through unmapped country, or our pace may slow and the bushes, the trees, and the earth we gathered are set aside for new growth to start along our path. Throughout our journey, we are using what we started with, and what our experiences have added to us, to be what we are meant to be – useful to the land around us, watering and nourishing the fields, while still progressing to our final merging with all the other waters on this great journey of life.’

            ~ Gaius Quinterus

‘… struggling with the burdens of your existence.’

 One of the great ‘joys’ (by which I mean it is sometimes a great curse too) of being an Aspie is that everything tends to get over-analysed – I am not just talking about reading a few articles, or browsing online for an hour or two…. no, no….. I am talking about complete absorption in the subject(s) for days/weeks/months on end until a very good working knowledge is gained (where giving a one hour lecture on the subject would be no hardship at all) – at the expense of almost any other social interaction if the task/problem demands it! The cause and effect of situations gets torn down to the nth-degree and a microscopic inspection of all possibilities is undertaken to try and discern the ‘whys and wherefores’ of life on general, but the incident specifically under scrutiny is given prime focus at all times. The reasoning behind this one-track approach to analysing a situation is because Aspies (well, certainly me, for sure) often struggle to ‘see’ the underlying social reasoning, the emotionally driven nature and the intuitive reactions of how people behave towards each other. Facts, cause, effect, structure and worth all need to be very carefully looked at, catalogued and ready for bringing out again in the future when a slightly different situation happens – to see if past experience can shed light on the latest one.

This is often truly wearing emotionally, timewise and physically as well as being a considerable burden on those folk around us who can witness our inner struggle and determination to ‘find out’ all the details for ourselves, no matter the cost… If I am not careful, and I know other Aspies have been through this too, the whole process can take a very negative toll on my wellbeing and it is for this reason that I came up with the following affirmation – one that I have to keep reminding myself about, still!

On the positive side, and there is always a positive side, the analytical nature of my brain, and the focussed attention to detail meant that I very naturally slotted into an IT career in the early 1980s with computers always close at hand ever since, and being a IT trouble-shooter for many customers, over very many years, has been second-nature to me. Dedication to the minutest details is crucial when dealing with computers, and has meant my skills have been the means of a very worthwhile income, without requiring much person-to-person contact at all. I work surrounded by my computers now, by myself, and happily engaged in work for long-term customers with whom I have developed an excellent professional relationship. So, every cloud has a silver lining, and some clouds even pay the bills! 🙂

Another small insight into the Aspie way of life – enjoy, and peace to you all 🙂

yourself1(Macro photography (stamen is only 2mm across), and taken by me)


‘Be kind to yourself when the world is causing you pain, and take care of your body’s needs when you are struggling with the burdens of your existence. Your life is a beautiful thing and, like a tender plant or a large tree, needs shelter, nourishment, light and space to grow and be useful.’

~ Gaius Quinterus