Happiness matters!

Everyone wants to be happy, and indeed has the right to be happy. The pursuit of ‘happiness’ (whatever we take that to mean) is actually a self-perpetuating, never-ending, task for each of us, every day. We may feel it is the driving force for what we do, and it is naturally within us to try to be ‘happy’ – perhaps we think that true ‘happiness’ can come from earning enough money so we acquire a certain object, or ‘happiness’ can come from reaching a certain level of career, or….

However, one of the great truths in life is that true happiness comes when we give happiness to others – their happiness will make us happy in a very real, profound way. I am certainly not proposing we go out, spend all our money, and buy everything we can to then give it all away to others – no, that may help one or two people on the surface and may make them happy for a short time, but mere possessions do not make for long-term happiness, for anyone. Things (objects, cars, houses, possessions, etc.) all decay and fade away with time – the long-term worth is nothing!

Far better to help people feel loved, accepted, cared-for, valued and appreciated, which is something that often costs nothing financially but can bring untold rewards for us all, and those rewards and benefits encourage and sustain even more people to give in such a way too. The returns are true positive returns, true happiness and will long outlast our puny bodies ! Giving of your time and love is a gift beyond price, and the reward to others (and therefore to your own soul) is also without price, but is to be sought out and aimed for at every opportunity.

In all things, and this is an important final thought just now, make sure your happiness does not remove the happiness from anyone else, or the potential for them to enjoy their happiness. The best way to be happy is to help others to be happy, then there can be no conflict of interest and everyone wins – including you! Be blessed,  bless others, and be happy!

~ Gaius Quinterus



Everyone seeks, and deserves, happiness. Share happiness with others, as a loving mother shares her life with her child!

~ Gaius Quinterus



Everything … is for a purpose.

I regularly contemplate my place in this world, and how everything ‘fits’ together – nothing new in that endeavour – it has been the quest of thinking peoples, probably since time began…

This affirmation describes one of the ways I have tried to reconcile how life seems to work around (and with) me – I hope it can strike a chord with some of you.

purpose1(The picture is of Glen Garry, just to the west of Loch Ness in Scotland, and was taken by me)

Peace and health to you all.


‘Everything we experience in life is for a purpose, by design, and for the good of ourselves and those around us, even if we do not understand it at the time. Our lives are like rivers that start very small and quiet – a gentle trickle of precious water that delights all who see it. As we gather more experiences, both turbulent and peaceful, our waters gather strength and speed, taking us through new and interesting places, until we reach obstacles that prevent us going forwards in the way we plan. Sometimes we rush through, carrying the earth and bushes with us, and sometimes we gather in pools of liquid strength, and then carve a fresh channel towards our distant goal. At times we are joined by others along the journey, some enriching our flow and some diverting parts of us to different destinations. Some stay with us, and some take new routes in their search for their true worth. We may give a part of our strength to other streams, or set some of our strength to one side in lakes, for many others to use. As we get older, our pace may quicken as we make a new path through unmapped country, or our pace may slow and the bushes, the trees, and the earth we gathered are set aside for new growth to start along our path. Throughout our journey, we are using what we started with, and what our experiences have added to us, to be what we are meant to be – useful to the land around us, watering and nourishing the fields, while still progressing to our final merging with all the other waters on this great journey of life.’

            ~ Gaius Quinterus

‘…no need to fear the storms of life …’

Busy with work just now, so this is a short blog entry, but I felt I could perhaps share with you an affirmation that presented itself to me in early 2013, when I happened to be going through a particularly difficult time in my life – a new (potentially very positive) venture being started by me was being knocked back by outside circumstances – I was trying to find a positive in all that was going on.

It happened about then that an unexpectedly bad storm was sweeping across where I live, and everything was getting battered by the windy, wet, weather – new, fresh leaves and plants were getting hammered to the ground just as they were starting to really show their potential. It made me think about my life and problems too, and my mind was drawn to set down these words. Enjoy!


‘There is no need to fear the storms of life that sometimes attack our soul and threaten to break our spirit. It is merely part of the change we must go through to become more beautiful and more useful people. Take heart that even the mightiest mountain cannot withstand the rain and wind, the burning heat and bitter cold, for ever. Over time it is utterly shattered, cast down, and ground into smaller and smaller pieces until it emerges as the gentle sand of a beach, reflecting heat and light, and a joy for all who see it and warm their feet on its softness.’

            ~ Gaius Quinterus

To accomplish ‘extraordinary’ things……..

People – well, those who have known who the real Gaius is – have sometimes asked me where I get the inspiration from to crystalise my thoughts and put them down in writing. The answer is not a simple one, and I don’t fully understand how it happens myself but, in the interests of others perhaps being able to identify with what I say and maybe start to share their insights and thoughts too, here we go!

I find the sayings/quotes/affirmations just ‘come’ to me, at the oddest times – like a voice in my head…. come to think of it, maybe I really am cracking up! Specifically, I may have been toying with a particular thought I want to convey (some sort of experience or feeling I want to share), and then into my mind pops something completely different entirely, ready made and 90% finished as I think it…. bizarre…

I actually look on such ‘interventions’ as simply being receptive to the ‘collective consciousness’ (for want of a better phrase), and the simple fact that I am prepared to be open to the collective need of the moment. I firmly believe that we are all part of an integrated human consciousness, but the vast majority of people aren’t (seemingly, and sadly) even aware it exists, and certainly aren’t receptive enough to hear anything that it is trying to convey to them personally. I consider myself as someone who is being asked to listen and then pass on what I hear – I must sound nuts, but that is what it really feels like…

However, at a very profound level, I find it very comforting, mentally and emotionally, to feel I am part of a greater whole – part of something much, much, bigger than any of us can imagine, but yet an active/re-active part of it all the same. I don’t want to apply labels like God, Universe, Astral Plain, etc. – that would seem to restrict and constrain the flow, so, in my mind, I think of it as a vast surrounding, deep, invisible, ‘sea’ of knowledge, emotion, love, goodness, compassion, hope and wellbeing.

As for little old me, I am privileged to feel the words I write are like an occassional small splash at the edge of that sea’s vast expanse – a few drops of water that may impact on a bit of dry land and perhaps bring hope of new life and opportunity to one or two receptive folk.

Here is one such affirmation (from early 2012 actually) that may inspire you along your own Life’s Journey. I certainly hope you can continue with me on mine 🙂


“To accomplish ‘extraordinary’ things, people need to stop being ‘ordinary’.

The desire to be ‘normal’ and the innate need, felt by so many, to conform to peer, media and social pressures, turns the majority of people away from their true potential and makes them ‘ordinary’ themselves – dragging many of them into drudgery, disappointment, sadness, despair, and dependence on living their lives through watching others live artificial ones. 

‘Ordinary’ people can never break free from the mundane, the acquiescent, the servile. It takes ‘extraordinary’ people to change the world and make exciting things happen, new, special, and innovative things.

To truly find your place in life, develop your mind, listen to your heart, act with kindness and care to those around you, and be the different person you were always meant to be.
Be ‘extraordinary’, and be all the happier for it!”

~ Gaius Quinterus

The ‘Awakening’

It seems only fair to you, the unsuspecting reader, that in this very first post I should try to explain why I am writing this blog. I will try to be brief, but I make no promises!

The story starts a few years ago now – not that many, but a few.

It is often felt that significant birthdays (20, 30, 40, etc.) are times at which our lives change – and for me being 50 years old was just such a moment. Not the actual birthday itself you understand (although I did have a very nice one), but during the months that followed I had a truly deep, meaningful and eye-opening ‘awakening’ – one that has had a profound effect on my life ever since.

Not a spiritual ‘awakening’ and maybe it is something that many would find a strange thing to celebrate, but when I was 50 (plus a few months), after struggling for much of my life with so many apparently ‘ordinary’ situations, I discovered I was deeply, very much, no mistaking it, an ‘Aspie’, by having what is pretentiously called ‘Asperger’s Syndrome’ – sounds awful – but it isn’t really.

Realising, without a shadow of a doubt, that I had Asperger’s was not actually a shock in itself, and neither was it anything that made me sad in any way – it was, and still is, a point of great satisfactory revelation – a true ‘awakening’ of self-realisation which has led to me to completely re-examine, overhaul, redirect and recalibrate my life from the ground up, since that day.

To set the scene, we need to go back to the mid 1950s…. Please bear with me – I promise the history lesson will be short…
All my life – even as a toddler, I ‘knew’ inside myself that I was ‘different’ – certainly my parents thought I was more than a bit ‘odd’ and, although I was academically bright, I struggled terribly with social events and any sort of peer interaction…

As a kid, and actually more so as a teenager and as an adult, it is difficult enough to know you are ‘different’ to your peers but for me it proved to be a very isolating and lonely experience, because I didn’t know why I was ‘different’, or in what way I could help myself not be ‘different’…
With the perfect placement that only the Universe seems to manage at times, I fortunately had a grandfather and a great-aunt who were truly wonderful and stood out head and shoulders above everyone else in my circle of friends/family by accepting me as I was, warts and all, and I forever owe them a huge debt of love and gratitude for helping keep me trusting in the innate decency of some people, while around me life was not a happy place at all in most ways. Dreadfully bullied at school, manipulated and bullied at home, and struggling with almost constant ill-health meant I had to retreat into myself, mentally and emotionally, to simply get through from one day to the next.

For me a true light came into my life when I was 20 – I met the woman to whom I have now been married for over 40 years – another of the very few people who has always accepted me as I am – and, thankfully, still does!

So, I made it to 50, and my ‘awakening’ was when I found out why I had been struggling for so long, in so many ways. Suddenly a great deal made sense, and immediately I knew I had to take stock and consider how best to proceed, building on what I had discovered and how my 50 years had been shaped up to that point.

And here I am – a lifetime of trying to figure out my existence, how others interact with each other, often studying the world from a third-party perspective and, for the last few years, jotting down thoughts, inner discussions and rules-of-thumb to help myself best deal with life from here on in – when suddenly other people wanted me to share these ideas, affirmations and analogies.

Given the nature of my past, I started using the name Gaius to distribute my writings – very gradually at first, but slightly more expansively as time has gone on. Having also been a photographer for part of my working life I often incorporate some of my images with the words at times.

I hope you will want to take this blogging journey with me, and I will start the process with the first step – one of Gaius’ writings from a few years ago that came to me as I was thinking of how my own life in the past could help me find direction for the future.


‘By knowing, accepting and dealing with your weaknesses you will gain strength.
By knowing, accepting and dealing with your fears you will gain courage.
By knowing, accepting and dealing with your anxieties you will gain confidence.
By knowing, accepting and dealing with your failures you will find success.
Embrace life’s difficulties, because the sooner you do, the sooner you will reap life’s rewards.’
~ Gaius Quinterus